Higher level of achievement of cooperation is when the child, really, tests happiness of that it pleases parents with that does.
It demands t parents of ability to thank which, unfortunately, not often meets.
Gratitude phenomenon rather rare today.
At least for the reason that we and not so often in the childhood heard words of gratitude that did.
Such is a state of affairs that parents are not inclined to notice made and if something is made, it is taken for granted.
Often already in the childhood we lose enthusiasm something to do because it is not estimated by people around.. . . . . . Read more -->
If the person refuses own desires under pressure psychological or can be even physical, it is called as humiliation.
Submission which helps the person to realize even more fully own desires is how healthy, for the personality the humiliation or suppression of her will is so destructive.
The history of pedagogics is full of examples when practice of punishment reached, in general, terrible masshtakb.
The archeologists, historians who were carrying out excavation near the Mediterranean testify that on a terriktoriya of Ancient Rome huge burials of young men who were beaten are found or even are hammered to death by own fathers for disobedience.. . . . . . Read more -->
And the frontal lobe speaks: Quietly, without panic and without fights.
It is simply father's drum set.
Epitalamus can incite: Take away a toy, seize that child by hair, break off the TV program.
And the frontal lobe warns: Not really good idea.
It would not be pleasant to mother.
The cerebral cortex copes with it wonderfully.
Now it possesses ability to a reconstruction of visual images therefore uses visual methods of selfchecking.
We already know how children remember faces.. . . . . . Read more -->
Besides, it is very important to give to the child a vocabulary for the description its internal reality.
As soon as at it giving to drink words for designation of feeling vitsya, it will be able on can to itself.
In the following exercise there are six phrases, which the child can tell the parents.
Please, read each statement and think: what word or several words you could whether to describe what the child feels?
what phrase you could show that a pony to drudgery its feeling?. . . . . . Read more -->
As far as your life would be saddened for fear, or sense of guilt which to us does not allow to raise the head, does not give us the chance to make something new in the life, to take some new steps, feeling that I will not be accepted and I will be deprived of love, attention and approval of people around.
Try to feel freedom and rest which would reign in us, to pokchuvstvovat pleasure and confidence of such experience when we are ready to go forward, without feeling thus fear.
Though we know that we can fail as it is the new sphere in our life, nevertheless, we have internal selfconfidence.. . . . . . Read more -->
I want to give them sweets or is not present?
If yes, that it is necessary to give and not to philosophize.
If is not present, that is not present, it is necessary and to explain.
It seems obvious, but it is simple kakoyeto a miracle.
Everything is clear?
I, probably, time six asked the son to put on trousers, and he every time answered: Well.
I thought that it did not hear me and asked to repeat that I to it told.
He absolutely seriously answered: Yes, I want peanut butter sandwiches!. . . . . . Read more -->
That would make I in this situation?
Encouragement of questions.
As soon as the child understands why the morals are important, he can to consider it as the, but not chemto imposed by parents.
It base of selfchecking, management own behavior I eat, decisionmaking in the absence of parents, a choice, as se bya messages in a difficult or ambiguous situation.
It is a basis abilities to respect others and itself, a basis predupreditelnos ti, stability and confidence for the rest of life.. . . . . . Read more -->